Decorating your corner

Imagine if the President was your dad or bro or best friend? Picture that? I know for most, the first thing that comes to mind is how, somehow all your problems would disappear. I know you’re already picturing that lavish lifestyle you’d be leading. Forget it, if you don’t like him! Just being real hehe. If so, then I’m guessing you won’t have a hard time swapping him with the vice president in that imagination.

I’m using the analogy of these two people because they represent the highest seats of power, authority and leadership in our country, with a wide sphere of influence of course. Who wouldn’t want to be associated with that, if it all came on a silver platter and with no negative effects resulting from the affiliation?

Anyway, fact is, we all can’t have that close affiliation. Also, their names in society wouldn’t mean anything to some of us. Reason being, we are all different, hence we are all pursuing different goals, and different goals require different kinds of input to succeed. Yes, you may beg to differ with me, it’s allowed.

This was however just to spark your mind to think what your goals look like, the kind of energy required into it and most importantly, the kind of people you need to have in your corner to effectively actualize your dreams. Your ‘presidents’ and ‘vice-presidents’. After all, no man is an island. You just can’t make it on your own.

I heard someone say that the relationships you invest in today are what your children will be calling connections. So much humor and truth in that. Well, depends with your sense of humor. The main point here is to invest in quality relationships. Long-term friendships.

Bear in mind that as you grow older, you get busy. It therefore gets harder to build new strong and stable relations. Why? Because certainly, the people you’d intend to connect with, are also busy. That’s a reality. So, if you need certain relationships to advance, build them right away. Seize every moment available to build strong networks.

As we talk about investing in quality relationships, it’s important to note that this is not a call to look down on anyone at all. In fact, one of the most practical words of advice I’ve ever gotten is, never dismiss anyone, because you don’t know their tomorrow. Especially if it’s a young person. Feel free to define young. Its relative.

So, we are not going to look down on anyone. We will just be more intentional when it comes to nurturing some of the relationships in our lives. It becomes easier to point out these relationships, if we know where we’re headed, because only then can you tell what’s of value to you.

People who want the best for you, will always want to see you at your best! That’s one criteria for evaluation, in case you were wondering. These are the kind of people you want in your corner. They will sacrifice their time and whatever it takes, to see you at your best. You won’t struggle sharing your ideas with them.

On the contrary, there are others who will associate with you only because of where you are, not who you are. They’re in it for the short term. Tread carefully around them. Don’t get so attached. If anything, these are the majority of people you meet in this journey of life. Just remember, people come, people go. So do seasons in life.

I’m always onto positive energy! I’ll definitely say, have around you people who speak positive and see possibility everywhere. Like-mindedness is also key. Oprah once said that when you surround yourself with people who are not accustomed to your success, they become fearful because you’re projecting to them something they don’t recognize. Check who’s around you. That’s why we need to fix our corners. Who is in your corner?

Decorate your corner. If I was to practically decorate a corner, first thing that comes to mind is flowers. Yes, maybe it’s just because of the word decorate haha. So, I would get the best flowers available in the stores. No matter the price tag, for real. Only as long as I’m sure that the quality would last as long as I’d want them to. Then of course I’d prepare myself psychologically to tend to these flowers as regularly as I should to maintain my corner bright.

I won’t tell you what else I’d put in my corner, because you don’t tell everyone everything about your space, right? But i’m relating this corner to your relationships corner. Thinking, who is in your corner? Not everyone will stick to the very end, but can we be intentional with establishing a strong network.

Take enough time as you pick on people you want in your corner. That space isn’t big enough for everyone. You also don’t want to drain your energy investing on people who aren’t in it for your good, when there are bigger problems you need to be solving. Pick right. Invest in quality relationships. It hurts to spend money on things with no return. Economists will tell you, you need value for your money. Same principle applies in relationships. Remember, you need a return on all your investments.

As you take your time, apply wisdom to it. Who you journey on with in life is such an important decision. It determines how far you’ll go, what mountains you’ll be able to climb, how much pressure can withstand. See, it’s something you want to spend time thinking about, before you make the decision. In my opinion, when it comes to friendships, it’s never about the numbers, but the quality. If I can count on atleast three people, then I’m good to go. And by the way, it’s even cheaper investing in fewer people.

Good things are nurtured. So are good friendships. Tend to them as you would to your ‘flowers’. Otherwise, they’ll fade and die. Who wants to lose beautiful flowers? No one. So if they’re the right people for your corner, tend to them. Sacrifice what you must. If they’re right for your purpose, you won’t struggle.

Once you have the right people in your corner, you won’t struggle with being vulnerable around them. After all, we all need that safe space to unwind, plan the next moves and advance. Nurture your friendships and you’ll love your corner.

Protect your corner. If you’re going to be vulnerable with one another in your circle, then you need to be certain of a sense of confidentiality amongst you. Whatever happens in your corner remains right there. This won’t be a challenge if you picked right in the first place.

Growth! It’s all about growth! Not just fun. That’s the only reason we’re decorating our corners today with the right people. People who buy into our dreams and visions. People who challenge you to broaden your vision and become better. People who give maximum support. People who are in it with unquestionably good and pure intentions to growth! These friends will hold you up when you’re down, will give you hope and courage, will help you achieve your dreams,

As I come to a close, I’ve figured, maybe I should have said this in the beginning: that it’s not always about you. It’s not just about what you can get and get and get. How selfish of you if you read on up to this point without thinking, what am I bringing to the table? If it’s a corner that’s going to be a spring of life, then as they pour into you, you must pour into them as well! Reciprocity!

Decorate your corner. We all love beautiful places. Take your time so that you pick right. Invest in this right pick, and at this point we’re certain that it’s a mutual effort. Then build each other up. The world needs more of such strong forces. Cheers to healthy bonds pursuing growth! Cheers to that bright corner that’s nothing but a spring of life! All the best as you engage on this important project!

Till next time, love & light 😊

22 thoughts on “Decorating your corner

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  2. Odd that you should mention having a president in your corner. Tom Clancy had written Hunt for Red October, and the only folks who picked it up was the Naval Press. they only printed a few hundred copies. but one of the copies ended up in the hands of then President Ronald Reagan. Ronnie read everything, and a reporter made the mistake of asking him if he’d read anything interesting lately. “Funny you should ask,” Ronnie said, and began to give a glowing review of the book.

    And the rest is history.l

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    1. Haha interesting!! I probably shouldn’t have even bothered making it an analogy.

      Speaking of which, that’s one of Tom Clancy’s book-film I’m yet to watch

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      1. I’ve always been a fan of Clancy (US Army, go figure). That said, the books are so detailed a lot of it get’s left behind. Oddly, now that Clancy is dead, and they;’re continuing the series, I haven’t been a fan. The edge is gone.

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  3. How convenient to visit this article and really read it .

    ‘I’m always onto positive energy! I’ll definitely say, have around you people who speak positive and see possibility everywhere. Like-mindedness is also key.Β ”

    You know reading this I thought to myself ***Very many people be knowing your worth; Just be Hoping you don’t?’

    I’ll be more intensional with my circlesπŸ‘

    Thanks for that good ReadπŸ˜ŠπŸ˜ŠπŸ’―βœŒβœŒπŸ’₯

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    1. They just be hoping you don’t! Haha! So so true. Got me thinking

      And one reason I really enjoy sparking these conversations is because I get to be challenged as well.

      Cheers to being more intentional πŸ™ŒπŸ™Œ

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  4. Wooow, what an educative read Koki!!!

    This got me thinking about my corner and if I’m doing what needs to be done to have beautiful and lasting relationships…

    Favorite part “The friendships I’m investing in right now are what my children will call connections”

    Thank you Koki❀️

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  5. I’m all about intentional friendships. I jumped on the link the moment it said, “let’s talk about friendships”. Asante Sana Koki you are a bomb.

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  6. I love I love I love…
    This needs to be out there and everywhere,….
    Woooow, its made me ask myself some genuine questions about my corner…

    Please continue with the great work 😍😍😍

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  7. Wow, this is so inspiring πŸ‘πŸΎ
    It had me reminiscing about my primary school years! Some flowers used to be seen only at one point in the year; so are some friends. Some are seasonal, some are for life.

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  8. Hi Doris,
    I completely agree with this. They say, this is the right time to create friendships, when you’re young. Those that come later, come because of what you have. And finally, it is all about who is willing to walk with you.
    Thank you, so inspiring ❀️

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    1. You’ve phrased it so well Phanice. Real talk!! And I’m happy we became friends before we even discovered ourselves, because that makes it genuine! And, we’re still getting there. Cheers to walking this journey together ❀

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  9. eclectic. πŸ™ŒπŸΏπŸ™ŒπŸΏπŸ™ŒπŸΏesteemed literary post seeking to explain something that matters especially when it comes to our close circles. teach us all over again on our decisions and choices.

    β€œA single rose can be my garden… a single friend, my world.”
    – Leo Buscaglia

    Nice one Doris.

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    1. Exactly. This is one topic that never gets exhausted. If only we could be more intentional when it comes to these choices and decisions.

      Noting down that quote right away πŸ™Œ

      Much appreciated Kings!

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